Is Society Setting Us Up to Fail? Why We’re Unprepared to Handle Pain
Today, I want to share something that’s been on my mind and that might resonate with you too.
Our world is set up in ways that often leave us feeling unprepared for life’s toughest moments—and it’s no wonder.
Many of us feel overwhelmed by pain, stress, and challenges.
But here’s the truth: we’re actually taught from a young age to sideline the skills that help us thrive.
Here’s what I mean:
School teaches us how to follow orders. We learn to prioritise obedience over exploring who we really are, and before long, we’re experts at ignoring our own needs to fit a mould.
University teaches us how to be an employee. Rather than discovering our true purpose, we’re pushed toward job roles designed to make us ‘productive’—often at the cost of our passions and dreams.
Hollywood teaches us how to choose bad partners. Relationships are painted as dramatic, intense, and even toxic, setting us up to mistake conflict for passion and often overlooking real support and kindness.
News teaches us how to be divided. News and social media push fear and division, pitting groups against each other and keeping us on edge, which creates a constant sense of “us versus them” that fuels mistrust.
Media keeps us distracted. With endless entertainment and shocking stories, we’re trained to scroll and swipe rather than pause and reflect, keeping us too busy to focus on our own healing.
Society teaches us to sweep emotions under the rug. We learn that it’s “strong” to hide how we feel, leading us to mask or ignore emotions rather than process and heal them.
Medicine teaches us to take a pill for every problem. Health care often aims to quiet symptoms rather than find the root causes, leaving the real issues—and real healing—unaddressed.
And then, of course, there’s our upbringing.
I could easily write about how our parents may have conditioned us in certain ways, not to mention any past or continued trauma, abuse, or stress they may have inflicted.
So, here we are—navigating crises, chronic pain, and emotional setbacks with little more than a few quick fixes.
How can we expect to be prepared to handle life’s challenges this way?
Here’s the good news: We can re-learn.
If you’re struggling with pain, whether it’s physical or emotional, remember that it’s because the system hasn’t set us up to thrive.
But it’s not about blaming the world around us—it’s about recognising what we’ve been taught to overlook.
The journey to healing pain, especially pain rooted in past experiences and buried emotions, starts with understanding what doesn’t serve us.
In my program, we challenge these ingrained patterns and replace them with tools that genuinely help.
I know this road well because I’ve been down it myself, and I’m here to guide you through each step.
You can learn to change ingrained patterns and replace them with beneficial tools with my FREE 1 hour pain relief course.
I've spent the last couple of months putting together a 1 hour 'How to Heal Your Pain' course, which details my entire pain relief process from start to finish.
And the good news, I'm giving it away for FREE..
You may be asking what the catch is?
Honestly, when I got lasting relief from my pain all those years ago, I couldn't believe how obvious the process was.
If only I'd known much sooner, I wouldn't have had to struggle for so long.
Likewise, with the people I see 1 on 1 for sessions, none of us had been taught this simple process.
So we struggled for so long.
But we don't have to. No one has to.
So below is a link to the entire process start to finish. Inside you'll get for free:
✅ 1 hour 'How To Heal Your Pain' video course
✅ Access to a community where you can chat with me and others
✅ Mind body quiz to assess your level of health
✅ Actionable plans to get lasting relief from your pain
Click here, or the link below, to access the course, all you have to do once you enter is select 'Join Group'. And await access.