The 'Why' Trap: How Chasing Answers Can Keep You Stuck in Chronic Pain
When dealing with chronic pain, it’s natural to ask why. Why do I have pain? Why does my pain move around? Why do I have pain, but others don’t? These questions feel important—like if we could just find the answer, we could finally fix the problem. But the truth is, constantly searching for answers can actually keep you stuck in pain, TMS, fatigue, migraines, IBS, and other stress-related conditions.
The Two Ways to Approach ‘Why’ Questions
There are two ways to approach these questions: cognitively (through logic and reasoning) or emotionally (by attending to the feeling behind the question). Most people focus only on the first—trying to solve the mystery of their pain like a puzzle. While understanding your TMS healing journey is valuable, the real key lies in addressing the emotions behind these questions.
Understanding the Root of Chronic Pain
In my work, I’ve found that chronic pain arises due to a combination of emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual factors.
Emotionally: Repressed emotions, unresolved stress, and anxiety can manifest as pain.
Mentally: Negative self-talk and limiting beliefs reinforce symptoms.
Physically: Lack of rest, movement, or self-care can keep pain going.
Spiritually: Disconnection from joy, purpose, or creativity can create distress in the body.
Trying to intellectually answer why you have pain will often lead you in circles. But what if you stopped trying to solve it and instead turned your attention to the emotions behind the question?
The Emotion Behind the Why
I used to struggle with severe stomach pain and back pain, and I constantly asked myself why. Why is this happening? What am I doing wrong? But what I didn’t realize was that my mind wasn’t looking for an answer—it was looking for care. The part of me asking why was actually feeling scared, frantic, and frustrated.
Instead of continuing to search for an answer, I started using meditation, journaling, and self-talk—the exact tools I teach in my pain relief community. These practices helped me step back and recognize that the why part of me wasn’t logical, it was emotional. It needed me to acknowledge its fear, not solve its question.
If you’re struggling with TMS, back pain, IBS, fatigue, anxiety, or migraines, learning to attend to your emotions instead of chasing answers can be a game-changer. If you want guidance on how to do this, join my free pain relief community here.
How to Attend to the ‘Why’ Part of You
Instead of asking why, ask yourself:
How is this part of me feeling right now?
Is it anxious, frustrated, or scared?
Can I allow these feelings to be here without trying to fix them?
This shift is what helped me finally get relief. When I stopped trying to figure out why and instead acknowledged the fear behind the question, I noticed my pain began to subside. And the same can happen for you.
Learn How to Do This Inside My Community
If you want to dive deeper and learn how to apply meditation, journaling, self-talk, and community support to your healing journey, join my free pain relief community.
Inside, you’ll get: ✅ A FREE 1-hour pain relief course to help you understand and heal your pain ✅ A private community forum to connect with others on the same journey ✅ Live calls for guidance and support ✅ Tools and practices to help you get lasting relief
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