Emotions Don't Create Pain, Resistance Does – How to Heal Chronic Pain with TMS Healing
If you've been struggling with chronic pain, TMS, back pain, IBS, fatigue, migraines, or any other persistent symptoms, you’ve likely been told that emotions play a role in your condition. But here’s something that might surprise you: Emotions don't create pain – resistance to emotions does. Understanding this is key to lasting TMS healing and relief from chronic symptoms.
Why Resistance to Emotions Creates Pain
Many people hear that emotions are contributing to their chronic pain and immediately think, Okay, emotions are the reason for my pain. But that’s not exactly true. It’s not the emotions themselves, but rather our resistance to emotions that leads to chronic symptoms.
Think about it—feeling emotions like anger, sadness, loneliness, or embarrassment doesn’t inherently cause back pain, IBS, or anxiety. What causes pain is when we suppress, fear, or push away these emotions, creating tension in the nervous system. The mind and body interpret this resistance as a threat, leading to persistent symptoms.
The Paradox: Resistance is Also Welcome
Here’s the twist: if all emotions are welcome, then resistance is also an emotion that must be welcomed. When we resist emotions, we do so out of fear—fear that feeling loneliness will lead to depression, that feeling anger is wrong, or that sadness will never end. But resisting these emotions creates even more stress and tension, which only fuels chronic pain.
Instead of fighting resistance, we need to learn how to acknowledge it and allow it to be present. This process is key to TMS healing.
How to Acknowledge and Allow Emotions
If you’re wondering how to start allowing emotions instead of resisting them, here are a few essential practices:
Meditation – This isn’t just about relaxation. Meditation helps you become aware of what you’re feeling in the present moment without judgment.
Journaling – Writing down your emotions can help you process them instead of suppressing them.
Self-Talk – Speak to yourself with kindness and acknowledge what you’re feeling instead of trying to talk yourself out of it.
Community Support – Healing is easier when you’re surrounded by others who understand. Join my pain relief community to learn these skills in a safe, supportive environment.
These are all learnable skills, and once you start practicing them regularly, your nervous system begins to understand that it’s safe to feel emotions without triggering pain.
Identifying Different Forms of Resistance
Often, resistance to emotions is subtle. It can show up in ways such as:
Trying to rationalize why you're feeling a certain way.
Searching for emotions instead of letting them arise naturally.
Allowing emotions only so they will go away.
Suppressing emotions because they feel unsafe.
Recognizing these forms of resistance is crucial because once you see them, you can gently guide yourself toward acceptance instead of avoidance.
Expanding Your Emotional Capacity
When you first start practicing TMS healing, it may feel overwhelming. A helpful analogy is that of a cup—when we begin, our emotional “cup” is small, and emotions overflow quickly. Over time, as we build resilience, our cup expands, allowing us to hold space for more emotions without them overwhelming us.
This emotional expansion teaches the mind and body that emotions are safe, which in turn helps dissolve chronic pain.
Take the Next Step in Your Healing
Healing from chronic pain, TMS, fatigue, and migraines is possible when you learn how to acknowledge and allow emotions instead of resisting them. But this process takes practice and support. If you’re ready to learn these skills in a guided, supportive environment, join my pain relief community where I teach this process step by step.
You don’t have to navigate this alone. Let’s work together to help your nervous system feel safe so your pain no longer needs to persist.